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Invasion of the Privacy Snatchers
Privacy…
Even the notion of it brings up a wistful longing, a “wouldn’t it be nice if…” ache. The concept of controlling your private information harkens back to simpler times.
Privacy is a casualty of modern life - treated as yet another price of progress. Each of us finds frequent, fresh reasons to mourn its loss - as more of our private space is chipped away. On some level we feel violated, while being powerless to slow it down.
One needn’t survive identity theft to be weary of routine assaults upon our individual sense of identity. It’s who we are - after all. Computer technologies driving our world relentlessly chop us into bits and byes of data, that can be stored and analyzed. Then it’s passed along to persons or organizations unknown - to use for “who knows what.”
People Jealously Guard their Bit of Remaining Privacy
Fill in this form… supply that personal fact… There’s no way to protect private information from insatiable, ever- expanding databases. Like the Star Trek slogan of the Borg, “Resistance is Futile.” All the while, down deep there’s a gnawing suspicion that whatever we reveal will be used against us.
Nowhere is that insecurity clearer than on the Internet, with infinite information passing across millions of websites. How willing are people to tell more than they must about themselves? Not very. Websites that demand more than minimal self-disclosure find a high percentage leave rather than comply.
Reliance on the Internet to Find Information Keeps Growing
Studies report the Web is trusted to provide information needed to make decisions and purchases - second only to spouses. A Harris Interactive consumer survey (2004) found that 73% of adults are now online - 156 million users.That’s up from 69% eight months before. Such massive changes in consumer behavior are altering every type of business.It’s a new ball game online.
Life insurance was once sold primarily by career life agents who represented a single insurance company. And a person’s agent knew them personally. Now policies are also sold by direct mail, telephone, and over the Internet - often by people who don’t know you at all.
Although there are numerous websites offering life insurance rate information, they ask visitors to disclosure their personal contact information first. And some are just collecting information to sell to agents. One assumes that requirement serves the sales process, rather than serving the wary customer (who just wants the information, thank you).
Anonymity is a Luxury
Imagine acquiring information you desire without having to surrender your privacy! There’s an extensive data base where life insurance rates for major companies are collected. And you can immediately find the best rates in the database, based on the factors you care about and fit you personally.
Here’s the best part. You can acquire that information without having to give up any facts about yourself. It’s a reality - we don’t ask for any personal information in order for you to get the data you want. You see the phrase, “We respect your privacy” all over the Web. But this could be the first time you’ve seen it in practice.
If you visit http://www.lifeinsure.com and enter several factors that you want to know… Bingo, up pop the best rates in the database. Your personal information was never requested. No salesman will call. Nobody is going to make you sorry you filled out a request. Aaaah…
Bet you thought it couldn’t happen. But we demonstrate that online life insurance quotes can co-exist with total customer privacy.
Here’s what one client said, which is representative of the positive feedback people give us about this service: “After attempting to work with several other online insurance services, I found LifeInsure.com. With them, I was able to look at many different insurance options in the privacy of my own home. Then, when I was good and ready, I made the decision, and contacted them. I had all the rates before I got in touch with them. Being able to do this anonymously made this a very comfortable, non-pressured process.”
You’re Completely in Control
Once you review your list of competitive insurance choices, anonymously, the next move is entirely up to you. Search again with different criteria… File the information away for future reference… Call your brother-in-law who’s been after you to buy the policy he’s selling… Or click on the link for your choice of policy and take the next step (where at some point, you’ll need to identify yourself)… and only then contact us for more information… It’s 100% up to you.
andcopy; lifeinsure.com 2005

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As a tenant in a rental community, you have some advantages over homeowners. For example, you don’t need to worry about making simple maintenance repairs. What you DO need to worry about is submitting repair requests in a timely fashion. If you wait too long, YOU could be responsible for costly repairs.
Let’s visit Suzy Shmoe - a resident of Hypothetical Apartments. Suzy has a leaky washer. When her clothes hit the spin cycle, some of the water inside ends up on the floor. Since Suzy is a busy woman she keeps forgetting to turn in that repair request to her landlord. So to temporarily “fix” the problem, she surrounds the washer with big fluffy beach towels which she replaces after every load. Sure, it’s a makeshift job… but by the time she gets home from school, its always too late to get in touch with the landlord, and she’s too tired to find him early in the morning. So the problem continues, and replacing wet towels from around the washer becomes more of a routine than a reminder of the leak.
What Suzy doesn’t realize is that the constant moisture on the laundry room tiles is causing them to warp and crack. Slowly, water begins to soak into the cracks and through to her downstairs neighbors ceiling. (Aren’t chain reactions fun?) So, Suzy’s downstairs neighbors submit a repair request to the landlord asking him to look at the water stain on their ceiling. The landlord determines Suzy’s leaking washer is the source of the problem, and now she is responsible not only for repairing the cracked ceiling of her downstairs neighbors, but also the repair costs needed to fix the original problem!
Now if Suzy had taken the extra time to turn a repair request into her landlord in the first place, her washer would work fine, she’d have a cabinet full of dry towels, and she wouldn’t have to worry about dishing out the cost for all of the repairs which now have to be made. Poor Suzy.
So let’s go back to Hypothetical Apartments and say that Suzy DID submit the request for repairs at the first sign of leaking. What if the landlord didn’t make the repair before the downstairs neighbors had a crack in their ceiling? According to the Cleveland Tenant’s Organization, “If a landlord does not meet the duties imposed by the Landlord Tenant law or the local housing codes or the rental agreement or if there are conditions which materially affect health and safety, then… a tenant may give the landlord a written notice to correct the condition. This notice must be in writing and delivered to the person or at the place where the tenant normally pays rent. Tenant should keep a copy of this notice.
“If the landlord fails to correct the condition within a reasonable time, not to exceed 30 days, then the tenant may deposit his/her rent with the Clerk of Courts, or may apply to the Court for an order to compel the repairs, or may terminate the rental agreement.”
In other words, if Suzy did her part as a tenant by notifying the landlord of the problem, the responsibility would move out of her hands and into the landlord’s. So if you have even a minor problem that requires your landlord’s attention, take the extra few minutes to turn in the repair request. You’ll save both you and your landlord from additional stresses.

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At the present time our nation continues in the war on terror. We recognize, of course, that both ‘war’ and ‘peace’ during a time when the world largely rejects the Son of God can be but relative terms. There was much real enmity during the days of so-called ‘peace’, and, conversely, there may be enjoyed, in the middle of this war, a peace which the world can neither give nor take away.
It would never be my intention to ‘meddle’ with political ideas of those who are so inclined to have theses thoughts (Deut. 2), or the consciences of you the reader, but my work is to pursue truth which when discovered will belong to a realm entirely removed from the things of earth, leaving the reader with the Word as the sole director for his or her actions. Nevertheless it is mostly true that we may learn from the things around us.
The government because of the threat of terrorist attacks has provided, among other things refuges for the protection of the people, this in the form of new laws like the Patriot Act and various other security changes at airports, courthouses and even schools. It is this fact that provides the theme of this study. God also has foreseen and provided refuges, and He has set forth Himself in the Word in this capacity.
I would normally have felt compelled to present you with a structural analysis and other commentary, but as this article is intended to minister to the ‘present necessity’, I will in this case approach our subject more directly. The refuge is, so to speak, intended for immediate use, not to be examined in pieces.
Deut. 33:27 The eternal God [is thy] refuge, and underneath [are] the everlasting arms: and he shall thrust out the enemy from before thee; and shall say, Destroy [them].
This takes us to the beginning of all consolation, comfort and protection. Moses must have had a reason for using the adjective ‘eternal’ here. He could have said, as in Psalms, ‘God is our refuge’, or ‘The God of Jacob is our refuge’, but he obviously intends to direct our attention, not only to God, but to some type associated with God’s character that is of particular importance when connecting the need for a shelter, and providing it. The Word ‘eternal’ represents at least four different ideas in the Scriptures, and we will acquaint ourselves with these wonderful uses in the Bible.
The Hebrew word Qadam, translated here in Deuteronomy as ‘eternal’, means ‘to precede, to go before’, and so at times conveys the thought of ‘anticipating’ something before it happens, as may be seen in Jonah 4:2, ‘Therefore I fled BEFORE (qadam) unto Tarshish’, which Gesenius the Hebrew grammar scholar translates: ‘Thus I anticipated (the danger which threatens me) by fleeing to Tarshish.’
‘Of old’ is also a frequent translation, and the words of Habakkuk 1: 12 give a similar thought. ‘[Art] thou not from everlasting, O LORD my God, mine Holy One? We shall not die. O LORD, thou hast ordained them for judgment; and, O mighty God, thou hast established them for correction.’
You should not only remember that the ‘eternal’ God is ‘from of old’, for this of itself would not necessarily prove that He would be a refuge, but also that the word carries with it the idea of ‘being beforehand with anything’, ‘anticipating the demand’ and providing for it.
As with the word ‘eternal’, so with the word ‘refuge’, it represents a number of ideas. In Deuteronomy 33:27, the word is meonah, from a root meaning ‘to dwell’ .
Deut. 33:27 ‘The eternal (qadam) God [is thy] refuge (meonah), and underneath [are] the everlasting arms: and he shall thrust out the enemy from before thee; and shall say, Destroy [them].’
This refuge is, therefore, a dwelling place. The same word is used for the ‘dwelling place’ of God Himself (Psa. 76:2), and for the ‘dens’ of wild beasts (Psa. 104:22). In either case, the meaning is the same. It is a place that provides protection, and where one may feel secure.
The refuge provided for the people of God is not to be thought of in terms of concrete or steel, for following the opening statement of Deuteronomy 33:27 we read: ‘And underneath are the everlasting arms’. The word ‘arms’ may have two different meanings, but there is no confusion in Deuteronomy 33:27.
The ‘everlasting arms’ refer, not to weapons but to the arms of the Lord, once ’stretched out’ to deliver Israel (Deut 4:34; 5: 15; 7:19; 9:29; 11:2; 26:8), and now stretched out in loving support, so that the tormented believer, forgetting all terrors and threats, looking not for cold and stark steel or damp and musky concrete, sinks into peaceful and secure rest in the arms of the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the God Who is beforehand is thy refuge.

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If you are looking for a Papillon or Phalene puppy for sale
Much has been written on how to find a reputable breeder. All in an attempt to put a stop to pet mills and abandoned dogs. But too many prospective puppy buyers are just as irresponsible as some breeders. So now, serious, quality breeders, have taken steps to protect both their dogs and their privacy.
Times have changed a great deal, so have puppy buyers and breeders. More people live in apartments or have small yards. As the population ages and there are more `empty nests’, demands for companion pets have changed. Small dogs that are easy to keep inside and dogs that require less exercise room are becoming more desirable. So why should looking for a Papillon or Phalene puppy for sale be any different than looking for some of the more common, large breed dogs? Let’s go step by step with an explanation from the breeder’s point of view.
Pick of the litter. This comes from the large litters that big dogs can have. Large dogs can have 10 or more pups, while Papillons and Phalenes may have 1 to 4 puppies in a litter. Large litters usually have a couple of large puppies and maybe a smaller “runt”. The smallest puppy in a Papillon or Phalene litter is usually small because of careful breeding, not the weakness usually thought of in “runts”, These are also the most sought after. If the breeder has a waiting list, the best Papillon or Phalene puppy will go to someone wanting a show Papillon or Phalene. A person wanting a pet Papillon or Phalene and only paying pet price will not get to “pick” the show Papillon or Phalene puppy. A direct quote from Cornell University’s DOG WATCH Newsletter, Vol.1, No. 8, Oct 97, states “No one has yet been able to find a direct correlation between a dog’s behavior at seven weeks and at two years.” Good breeders try to match the person with the puppy the buyer desires. Another quote from the same source states ” good breeders who know their dogs and how to interview the prospective owners often can do a better job of picking the right pup than the prospective owners themselves.”
Seeing the parents. Many times only the mother of the Phalene or Papillon puppy is available for the buyer to see. Good breeders often go to someone with a superior male to improve the quality of their Phalenes and Papillons. Buyers should not be discouraged to see only one parent of the puppy. Buyers may not understand the toll that having puppies takes on the mother. If she is a long-haired breed, she may have been clipped by the owner for her comfort and for the good of the pups. She will not look ready for the show ring at the time the pups are ready to go. These things need to be considered when seeing the parents of a Phalene or Papillon puppy.
Viewing the kennel or home. This is where the greatest change is taking place today. Papillons and Phalenes are more popular than ever. A buyer usually does not realize the number of calls a breeder who has Phalene or Papillon puppies for sale can get every day from people who just want to see what Papillons or Phalenes look like, with no intention of buying a puppy. Directly related stories and personal experiences of breeders indicate that potential buyers and “window shoppers” abuse this piece of advice the most! Breeders have outside jobs, family obligations and , of course, the Papillons and Phalenes. They are rarely sitting around for the sole convenience of visitors! Here are just a few ways that the words “kennel inspection” have been interpreted and abused by some claiming to be looking for Papillon puppies for sale:: they are on vacation and in your town. They phone and want to see your Phalene or Papillon puppies (in the next 15 minutes)—only because you happen to be nearby when they run out of sights to see! OR a family or friend are visiting for the weekend, so looking at your puppies would be a good way to pass the time. OR, the grandkids are visiting and it is time to take them out for a while!
None of these people called to make an appointment. None had any desire to buy a Papillon or Phalene. They used the “kennel inspection ” excuse to treat the breeder like a free petting zoo, there to entertain them when they have nothing else to do. Now add to this the number of people who are truly doing their beat to find the right Phalene or Papillon puppy for sale for them..
Breeders have other things to worry about in addition to inconsiderate, bored window shoppers. Puppy diseases are easily spread by even the most casual contact. The best breeders will not allow their puppies to be seen or handled until the puppy has had it’s first shots, usually not before 5 weeks old. By this time, the breeder may have deposits on the Papillon or Phalene puppies from people who are more familiar with the breed and the breeder’s pedigrees. This can be frustrating to the pet buyer who is taking the advice usually printed about finding a breeder with Phalene or Papillon puppies for sale.
Buyers should not be offended if the breeder suggests a first meeting at a dog show or other place. This gives the breeder time to meet the potential owner of one of their precious babies, and gives the buyer the chance to see other Papillons and Phalenes.
Unless the breeder is also a public groomer or boarding kennel, they may not carry the type of insurance that would protect them from minor lawsuits. This can be a problem when people insist on bringing a small child or their current dog to see the puppies. Children have been known to to wander around the breeders home, peering into kitchen cabinets, pulling flowers and bulbs from the garden, and even attempting to enter bedrooms, basements and garages! Careless parents have handed small puppies to a child, only to have the child drop the puppy and break it’s leg!
Some adults are worse (because they should know better). They do not seem to understand that they are in a breeders HOME, and do not respect the breeder’s privacy. Some breeder’s do not allow others to see or handle puppies that have a deposit on them, as these puppies are now the property of others. This disturbs some buyers, but remember, the breeder will protect the puppy YOU buy from strangers. There are some people who do not know when to leave. The breeder may have to go to work, cook supper, answer the phone or any number of life’s activities.
Then there is the breeder’s nightmare-thieves! I am a member of a large, all-breed, show-sponsoring club. At our last show, flyers had to be posted warning owners to watch their dogs because of a recent rash of dog thefts. Papillons and Phalenes are popular, hard to get and easy to carry off! Breeders have had puppies stolen from their home when they went to answer the phone while the “prospective” buyers were looking at the puppies. Others have lost puppies after showing the puppies, only to have the “buyer” return when the owner was not home, to break in a steal all the puppies. Even more disturbing, some have had their home robbed of personal property several days after showing the puppies and allowing a “kennel inspection”, even though they had NO kennel, just a spare room for the puppy nursery. All because they had a Papillon or Phalene puppy for sale.
There are some very dedicated breeders who live alone. In society today, they have to exercise even more caution to insure their safety and peace of mind. They may not desire to have a stranger visit, but they may still be producing wonderful Phalene or Papillon puppies. To not consider one of these simply because you cannot go to their home may deprive you of the very Papillon or Phalene puppy you are searching for!
Some want to bring cameras and take pictures of the puppies and the home.
This is truly an invasion of privacy! Besides the obvious objection to this, the pictures may not be well taken. Many breeders go to great pains to have quality pictures taken of their dogs. If you want pictures, ask for some from the breeder, they will be happy to give you good ones. If you buy a Phalene or Papillon puppy, do not take photos at the breeders home without permission. After all, the puppy will not change in the time it takes for you to get to your own home.
References. This is another area that needs to be re-considered. All the things that apply to the breeder also apply to those who own a puppy. They did not get a Phalene or Papillon puppy so that strangers can call or even attempt to visit to see a dog that they bought as a family pet. Add to this, that this is probably the most inaccurate way to determine a breeder’s quality. Anyone can give you the phone number of a friend. Even Vets do not make good references, as many have no idea of the standard for the breed, although they should be knowledgeable on health matters.
A much better way to compare breeders who have Phalene or Papillon puppies for sale is to look at the guarantee that they offer. Do not expect every guarantee to be the same.
Breeding practices have changed because of buyer education. Now buying practices need to adjust to better serve the buying public and protect the breeder and puppies
So what should you expect to do to get a great Phalene or Papillon puppy? First, know the breed. Do not expect the breeder to supply you with a library of information simply because you have a casual interest or are investigating several breeds.. Go to the library and read up on the breed if you know nothing about it. If you have never seen the breed, go to a dog show, It is not the breeder’s job to put on a private show of all their dogs just because they may have Papillon or Phalene puppies for sale. You are not entitled to see all their Papillons and Phalenes–only the parents! Then you will be prepared to ask the breeder specific questions relating to their dogs and your desires.

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Most women who choose to color their hair, do it at home. It’s not that difficult, and you get it done just the way you want. Unfortunately, you often do a little more than you want, and are left wondering how to remove hair dye from a variety of surfaces, including you!
The first tip, is that when dying your hair, apply a border of Vaseline around the edge of your scalp. Make it an area perhaps an inch wide or more. Yes, it feels a little greasy, but it will save you the work of trying to scrub off dye stains at the base of your neck where you can’t even see what you’re doing.
If you do have hair dye stains, there are commercial removers to be bought at hair salons (after all, they make mistakes too), but you can get the same results with your toothpaste. The make up of toothpaste means that it contains just enough abrasive to help remove the dye from your skin, without irritating it. Rub it in with your gloved fingers, or use an old toothbrush.
When the dye falls on clothing, get it off and into cold water, immediately. Soak until the stain is all or mostly removed. Wring out and place on a firm surface, then use an old toothbrush to work a dishwashing detergent into the stain. Rinse and launder as usual but air dry in case the stain is not completely gone. If there is some mark left, soaking it overnight in one of the OxyClean products may help.

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You’ve been asked to be best man at a wedding. What an honor! Someone clearly thinks very highly of you - you must be quite the guy.
Flattered to the hilt, you happily agreed, but now that you’ve gotten yourself into this, you realize you may not be entirely sure what you supposed to do as the best man. Just what exactly are the responsibilities of the best man?
Yeah, I know, you’re usually a pretty confident guy, but now you’re feeling just a touch nervous and a little unsure of yourself. Maybe you haven’t been to that many weddings, and if you have, I’m betting you weren’t carefully studying the best man. The maid of honor, maybe - but not the best man. No doubt you had much better things to do!.
So now that you’ve been selected to wear these shoes, you’re feeling uneasy…You don’t want to come off looking foolish, and you don’t want to get anything wrong.
Chill, honey. This is going to be a piece of cake for you. We’ll run you through everthing you need to know, and you’ll pull it off with class and ease. You’ll be the man of the hour by the time you’re through this little crash course. A real confidence man.
Let’s take it from the top, shall we?
What is a best man?
The best man is the person selected to “stand up for the groom” at the wedding. The best man must be of legal age because he also serves as a legal witness to the marriage. (Remember, apart from all the wedding hoopla, marriage is a legal contract!).
During the ceremony, the best man stands next to the groom (to the groom’s right side). If there are other male attendants (ushers or groomsmen), they will stand to your right side.
If there is no ring bearer for the wedding (the little guy who carries that frilly little pillow onto which the rings are sometimes tied), the best man may be asked to hold the rings during the ceremony until the big moment comes for the couple to exchange vows and rings.
Since the best man serves as a legal witness, towards the end of the ceremony you will accompany the bride, groom, and maid or matron of honor (who is also a witness), to witness the signing of the legal documents.
At the conclusion of the ceremony, the best man escorts the Maid or Matron of Honor up the aisle, following directly behind the bride and groom.
As you exit the church, you will stand with the bride, groom, and other bridal party attendants to pose for photos.
If all of this seems a little overwhelming or difficult to remember, don’t worry - it will all be carefully explained, and you’ll get the chance to practice it, and ask any questions you may have, at the wedding rehearsal a day or two before the wedding.
The Right Man for the Job
So who should be a best man at a wedding? If you are asking this, you’re second guessing yourself pal. The groom picked you because you’re the man! He knows what he’s doing, so relax.
The best man may be the best friend of the groom, or a buddy of the groom; he may be a brother, step-brother, or close cousin of the groom; he may even be the father or the step-father of the groom - which, in this wedding expert’s personal opinion, totally rocks (who could be more deserving of this honor than dear old Dad?).
What are the duties of the best man?
Let’s start with the best part first, shall we? If you’d like, you can host a stag party for the groom. I bet I don’t need to explain what that is. Keep in mind that stags are optional; you are not obligated to host one, but you may do so if you wish - and IF the groom does not object to the idea. (No, really. Some guys don’t want a stag). You might also ask the other male attendants in the wedding party if they’d like to host it with you, but they too are under no obligation. It’s strongly recommended that you discuss your intentions with the groom before making any firm plans for a stag. Some guys have agreements with their brides-to-be that there will be no stag party, and others have made promises about the types of activities which will and will not be involved. This can be a very touchy issue for many brides-to-be, and today many grooms, of their own free will, simply prefer to keep things pretty tame and mellow. The last thing the best man should be doing is creating upset between the bride and groom, so remember, talk to the groom-to-be about the types of activities that he is interested in, and determine what will be acceptable.
Attend fittings for tuxedos or suits at the scheduled time.
Attend any pre-wedding meetings or parties for the wedding attendants.
Attend the wedding rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner (that part is easy, just show up and enjoy!).
On the day of the wedding, arrive at the groom’s home prior to the ceremony to provide him with moral support, and ensure he gets to the church on time!
Hold on to the wedding rings and the marriage licence prior to the ceremony and guard them with your life! Make sure you have these prior to leaving for the ceremony. If the couple will be leaving for their honeymoon directly after the reception, you may also be asked to hold any plane tickets for safe keeping until the couple is ready to depart the reception.
Hang on to the payment for the ceremony officiant (the minister, rabbi, or other religious officiant, or the judge in the case of a civil ceremony) as well as payments for any ceremony musicians (organist, soloist, string ensemble, etc.), and ensure everyone gets paid at the end of the ceremony.
You may be required to stand in the receiving line either immediately after the ceremony or at the start of the reception. Sometimes the best man and groomsmen are excused from participating in the receiving line - this will be the couple’s call.
It is traditional and customary for the best man to make a toast to the groom at the reception. If you are so inspired, at your option you may also toast the bride, or toast the bride and groom together as a couple. No raunchy stories please - this isn’t the time or place. The groom’s grandma and great Aunt Alice will be there. Not to mention his new wife. Keep it classy.
Sometimes the best man is also asked to serve as Master of Ceremonies (otherwise known as the MC) at the reception, while in other instances, someone totally different may fill this role. If you are asked to MC, at the appropriate time, usually following the meal, you’ll have the job of introducing the bridal party seated at the head table, and of announcing special guests (like the brides great-great-great-great grandma), or out-of-towners. At the appropriate time, you’ll announce any of the individuals who will be proposing a toast or making a speech. You’ll read any telegrams that have been sent to the bride and groom from out-of-town guests who could not attend, and you’ll make any other special announcements that are passed on to you. Now don’t let any of this get you uptight - the bride and groom should provide you with written notes and instructions to prompt you on who to introduce and what to announce, you won’t be expected to memorize it! Once the dinner portion of the festivities is over, and the party really starts to get under way, all MC tasks are usually taken over by the DJ or band leader, freeing you up to party down!
Hang on to the payments for the vendors who will be providing services at the reception, and disburse the vendor payments to the appropriate individuals at the end of the reception.
Help the bridal couple make a smooth exit at the end of the reception. Ensure that a car will be waiting for them, or drive the new Mr. and Mrs. yourself (only if you’ve been sipping nothing stiffer than soda-pop throughout the evening, otherwise leave the driving to someone sober).
Other miscellaneous responsibilities:
You may be asked to run the occasional errand, help in decorating cars or the reception room on the wedding day, or other such small tasks. The couple will let you know if they are in need of any of these sorts of favors from you.
What expenses is the best man responsible for?
As the best man, you’ll need to cover the cost of your wedding day attire - tux or suit, shirt, tie, appropriate dress shoes. Generally the couple will choose the attire for you and the other wedding attendants, but it’s still up to you to pay for what you’ll wear. The couple may have you and the other attendants rent tuxes (which will generally run you between $50 - $100), purchase new suits, or, in the case of a less formal wedding, an easy going couple may allow you to wear a suit you already own (assuming you have one which is appropriate), but don’t hold your breath on that one!
Like any other wedding guests, you’ll also need to budget for a gift for the happy couple, if you intend to give them one. Etiquette says that gifts at a wedding are never “required”, and should never be expected by the couple. However, though wedding gifts aren’t mandatory, they are somewhat customary, so do what feels right for you.
If you don’t live in the same city or town where the wedding is taking place, etiquette requires that the couple cover accommodation expenses for attendants who must travel to participate in the wedding (but you pay for your own transportation). Now brace yourself here; not every bride and groom today is as up on their etiquette as they should be. If your bride and groom seem oblivious to the fact that this is the proper thing for them to do, you can always send them to this article to give them a gentle heads-up.
There it is in a nutshell. With all this info under your belt, you’ll pull this gig off like you’ve done it endless times before. Now there’s just one last instruction… Enjoy the wedding!
by Linda Kevich
Editor, SuperWeddings.com

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What is a chat room?
It’s an area of a website set aside for people to chat in ‘real’ time. In other words, messages appear on a screen as soon as they are typed, and are responded to immediately.
Let’s go to an established chat room for our first visit — Yahoo Chat. Go to http://www.yahoo.com After the home page loads, click on the ‘chat’ link, at the left side of the page right by Connect.
You will first have to register, if you don’t have a yahoo email address. If you already have a yahoo email address, then you can go straight to the chat room.
Under the ‘Enter Chat Room’ link, there are two ‘Featured Rooms’, you can choose instead. After you have made your choice, enter.
You will then be asked to enter your Yahoo ID and Password. The chat room will then begin to load.
Note: You can also download Yahoo Messenger. It’s a Free messaging service that allows you to communicate with friends and family and others. It’s useful by letting you know when certain people come online. You will download the messenger to your computer.
The messages will have the senders name in front of them, so that you will know who they come from. You type your message in a box at the bottom of the screen, then hit send.
It’s fun to chat but beware, Chat Rooms Can Be Addictive!!
If you find that you truly enjoy the chat rooms, limit yourself to one or two hours per day at them.

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Planning a baby shower can be a daunting task. This is because it entails a lot of preparation, things to consider, and expenses to prepare. After all, baby showers are not just an ordinary celebration that can be executed even without proper planning.
That is why preparating baby showers involve the careful incorporation of ideas as well as the budget for the whole event. You would not want to come up with something that will reflect the ‘this-will-do’ attitude of most people.
Consequently, baby shower games, as part of the celebration, should be meticulously prepared. However, not all baby showers have games on their plans. But the fact that it is a great icebreaker, many baby shower coordinators are incorporating the idea of having baby shower games in the party.
With the advent of the Internet, there are many baby shower game ideas made available online. The best thing about it is that most of the baby shower games available on the Internet are free. Hence, for people who are really tight on the budget, they can get hold of the benefits that free baby shower games can give them.
But then again, free baby shower games are not for everybody. There are people who contend that free baby shower games are not the ideal games to be used in the baby shower.
Here are some of the drawbacks about the free baby shower games.
1. Free baby shower games do not look nice.
Most people contend that the printouts of the free printable baby shower games available online are better than the free baby shower games available in the market. This is because most of the free baby shower games are just plain handouts, with no artistic creations embedded in it.
2. Most parents would appreciate it more if you will not use free baby shower games.
The value or the money is not the issue here but on how baby shower games are used or executed. Because free baby shower games usually lacks quality materials, it would be better not to include them in the party than to make it appear that the event and the preparation was just taken for granted.
3. If there were a budget, it would be better not to use free baby shower games.
If you have a budget for the baby shower as well as the games, it would be better to use the games that were designed professionally.
Besides, baby shower games are not at all expensive when compared to free baby shower games.
4. Believe on the saying, you will get what you have paid for.
This would mean that if you have obtained a baby shower game for free, then, expect something that is not meticulously and artistically created because there are no capitals or investments used to make the creation attractive.
If you obtained a baby shower game that is worth your money, chances are, you will have quality baby shower games to enjoy in the party.
The bottom line is that baby shower games should not be taken for granted. It does not essentially mean that free baby shower games are really bad or is not worth using. But the fact that the event is such a momentous occasion for the parents-to-be, then, it would be better to come up with baby shower games that would reflect the joy and happiness of the people on the arrival of the baby.
After all, baby shower games are not that expensive so there is no sense in getting free baby shower games.

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Doggie day care is becoming more and more prevalent in our society. This is mainly due to the fact that there are so many dogs all around the world and people are looking for a good alternative to the routine trip to the kennel.
Don’t get me wrong. There are very good kennels all around the world but doggie day care is unique. Doggie day care is designed to provide dog owners with the assurance that their beloved pooch is going to receive a lot of one on one attention. Plus, a doggie day care provides an environment very similar to what the dog is already used to.
When you take a look at the numbers of dogs all around the world, you will start to understand the need for good doggie day cares.
Doggie day care takes a lot of the worry out of going to work or going on trips. Doggie day care helps you avoid asking the neighbors to come by and feed and play with your dog when you are away from home. Your family and friends have a life also and taking care of your dog can sometimes be a difficult task.
When we started our doggie day care, we never imagined the response that we would receive from our customers. People are so appreciative and are very happy that their dog is being taken care of, which makes us happy.
These are just a few of the reasons doggie day care is becoming such an awesome alternative!

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There are two types of marriages. A marriage in which a couple is married and cares about each other and another in which the couple loves each other and supports the development of each emotionally and spiritually.
I met my wife in Russia. Our romance was something of a whirlwind romance. There are times when you just know something is right. You do not know why you do it - you just know you must. When we first started talking about building a family, my wife was very careful about saying a family was the most important thing for her. She was quick to point out that she wanted to build a family as quickly as possible. Now consider this scenario. Imagine we had gone ahead and had children. I am sure she would have been happy. I am sure I would have been happy. We would have lived our lives happily together taking care of our children and eventually seeing them of to marriage. At the age of about 50, we would have begun our lives together.
But that is not what happened. And the purpose of this contribution is to give my thoughts on why it did not. My wife is in her early twenties. The reason she left Russia is purely to be with me. I did not live in wealthy part of the world at the time, nor did I live in a wealthy part of a poor country. I just lived an average life. She came away to live our lives together, to grow together. I kept this in the back of my mind every time we spoke about building a family. As her husband, I knew it was my responsibility to do what was right for her. I always noticed the excitement and twinkle in her eye whenever she read new books and listened to my friends discuss a client case or business challenge. I believed she had the potential to be more than she thought she could. The first time I broached the subject of starting her own business, she shied away. I believed this was more because of a lack of self-confidence than a lack of ability. I spent much time teaching her about simple business principles and ideas - in a fun way. I used the example of American media and movies to explain the idea of branding and the work I do. I bought her a laptop and the tools to learn how to work in an office environment. I introduced her to people who were nice and successful at the careers. The next time I mentioned starting her own business, she tentatively accepted the idea - but waited for my response. I gave her all the support she could possibly need. I took time of from my busy schedule to help her plan her new business, I taught her the fundamentals of business and how it should be conducted.
The reason I choose this example is fairly simple. She comes from a country in which the men naturally dominate. Even if she had the potential and enthusiasm to do something new, she was looking for my support and encouragement. I gave her the basic skills to continue to grow as a person. By growing herself, she as matured our relationship and ultimately myself. It is something many men worry about. Will their wives turn into something they so dread? - The archetypical Americanized wife who will put her needs before your own. And I always have the same answer. Your wife will only become what she always was. Her principles will never change. They will merely manifest themselves in new ways. If she believes in loving her husband, she will do this no matter what happens or where she goes. To answer the questions above - your Russian wife is in a new country and relying on you to be her guide, friend, teacher, confidant and husband. Your actions will ultimately determine the way you act Remember, like any women with the dream of a fairytale romance (and this would be all women) she will do anything to show her love. If you show her love, respect, care, sacrifice and forgiveness, she will reciprocate these actions. You need to understand the responsibility you have. Your actions will be used as a reference for her actions. You have the choice to make this into a fairytale romance.
As I write my thoughts, I am sitting in my lounge and out of the corner of my eye I watch a movie starring Uma Thurman. I am in baby blue pajama pant and white shirt. I cannot really say I want to watch Uma (I prefer documentaries Uma), nor do I want to sit in a baby blue pajama pant. But I do it for her. Only for her would I sacrifice my ritual Saturday dinner at Browns and wind down the Saturday evening with a romance movie on a perfect night for a walk.
The dress is of course part of the package. We did not know it at the time, but the discussions about what I should wear are part and parcel of the negotiations which marriage counselors call “c-o-m-p-r-o-m-i-s-e”. I am not sure how I got to wear this “interesting” ensemble, but I do know that I must have enjoyed it because here I am. But that is part of our relationship. It is based on absolute trust. I give my views when I think I have something useful to say but otherwise I just go with the flow. People who have worked with me may of course find this hard to believe, but it is true. Now imagine me doing any of this at the early stages of our relationship. It is an image that not even my creative mind can conjure. I am of course the same man who used to travel to holiday destinations in an Armani suit and laptop. Just in case a business idea reared its beautiful head. But those days are over.
Whether any of us will ever admit it, we all lie just a little bit during the courtship phase. It is normal and perfectly acceptable as long as it is not too big a lie. Even if it is small thing like matching her taste in ice cream and saying I like strawberry ice cream, it is still something, which will follow us into the relationship. All these little fibs and the truth blend into to create a personality, which is taken into your new relationship. As the relationship matures and your comfort for each other’s presence increases, the role-playing will diminish and you will be happy in just be you in front of her.
This is where the challenging part of a Russian-Western relationship comes into play. If your Russian wife is typical, then she will most probably be intelligent, degreed and most probably beautiful. Very few if any of these women are just looking to settle down and have children. Yes of course they want children and a family, but they want more. As your relationship becomes more settled and comfortable, your wife will start to explore the idea of working or maybe starting her own business. This may be done in a variety of ways. Maybe she will talk about a Russian friend she knows who as been very successful at managing both. In her own special way she will explore the idea. If you immediately block the idea, she will end all discussion about it. She will be careful not to damage the happiness she now has. Even though she does not talk about it, this does not mean she is not thinking about it. She will have dreams, hopes, aspirations and ideals, which she will want to fulfill. The hope will build within her.
During this time, she will still be the loving wife she wants to be, and you want her to be. She will care for you and the children. She will be the most perfect wife you can possibly imagine. This is the part where I stopped writing about my life and started giving generic advice. I think it is time I end my personal story. By giving my wife all the support she needed, she had grown into a wife who is more than just a “wife”. She has always lived her life by the right principles. I could easily see it in the way she acts, talks, thinks and lives her life. I knew, even before she knew it, that if given the freedom to be everything she could, she would bring something into our lives I could not. Yes, I advise high profile business leaders and people. But I do not know everything. By giving her the freedom to truly grow, she brought vitality back into our relationship. She as made me feel happy. I now joyously wait to wake up in the morning and tackle another day at Anna Reddy. We have both moved to working from 7am to 1am. But we are never tired, nor stressed from the experience. The experience of finding herself as actually made our marriage work better. We have grown together and moved our relationship to another level. She now knows I am comfortable with who she is, and she is not afraid to pursue her dreams and goals. She knows I will support her, and I know she will always be my wife in name and heart.
Many men reading this article will probably ask - what does this mean for me? This young, intelligent, beautiful woman married you and moved thousands of kilometers away to be with you. Do not make the mistake of thinking she wants to marry you. She wants to do more than that -she wants to develop and relationship and life with you. By showing her trust, sincerity and respect, you will empower her to contribute more to the relationship. She will love you and respect you more for this. She wants to love you, she wants the whole world to know, give her the chance to do so.
The fundamental of a successful Russian-Western marriage is simple. Give your wife the same things you want from her. There is no complex, checklist to go through. Everyone writing to me expects the advice to be different. Yes your Russian wife is different, but the principles of a successful relationship are the same. If you want something from the relationship, show it is possible by living the principle. A relationship in which a Russian wife is comfortable, is a successful relationship because it gives her an opportunity to make the marriage work in her own special way. A way that only a loving wife can make possible.

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