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There are two types of marriages. A marriage in which a couple is married and cares about each other and another in which the couple loves each other and supports the development of each emotionally and spiritually.
I met my wife in Russia. Our romance was something of a whirlwind romance. There are times when you just know something is right. You do not know why you do it - you just know you must. When we first started talking about building a family, my wife was very careful about saying a family was the most important thing for her. She was quick to point out that she wanted to build a family as quickly as possible. Now consider this scenario. Imagine we had gone ahead and had children. I am sure she would have been happy. I am sure I would have been happy. We would have lived our lives happily together taking care of our children and eventually seeing them of to marriage. At the age of about 50, we would have begun our lives together.
But that is not what happened. And the purpose of this contribution is to give my thoughts on why it did not. My wife is in her early twenties. The reason she left Russia is purely to be with me. I did not live in wealthy part of the world at the time, nor did I live in a wealthy part of a poor country. I just lived an average life. She came away to live our lives together, to grow together. I kept this in the back of my mind every time we spoke about building a family. As her husband, I knew it was my responsibility to do what was right for her. I always noticed the excitement and twinkle in her eye whenever she read new books and listened to my friends discuss a client case or business challenge. I believed she had the potential to be more than she thought she could. The first time I broached the subject of starting her own business, she shied away. I believed this was more because of a lack of self-confidence than a lack of ability. I spent much time teaching her about simple business principles and ideas - in a fun way. I used the example of American media and movies to explain the idea of branding and the work I do. I bought her a laptop and the tools to learn how to work in an office environment. I introduced her to people who were nice and successful at the careers. The next time I mentioned starting her own business, she tentatively accepted the idea - but waited for my response. I gave her all the support she could possibly need. I took time of from my busy schedule to help her plan her new business, I taught her the fundamentals of business and how it should be conducted.
The reason I choose this example is fairly simple. She comes from a country in which the men naturally dominate. Even if she had the potential and enthusiasm to do something new, she was looking for my support and encouragement. I gave her the basic skills to continue to grow as a person. By growing herself, she as matured our relationship and ultimately myself. It is something many men worry about. Will their wives turn into something they so dread? - The archetypical Americanized wife who will put her needs before your own. And I always have the same answer. Your wife will only become what she always was. Her principles will never change. They will merely manifest themselves in new ways. If she believes in loving her husband, she will do this no matter what happens or where she goes. To answer the questions above - your Russian wife is in a new country and relying on you to be her guide, friend, teacher, confidant and husband. Your actions will ultimately determine the way you act Remember, like any women with the dream of a fairytale romance (and this would be all women) she will do anything to show her love. If you show her love, respect, care, sacrifice and forgiveness, she will reciprocate these actions. You need to understand the responsibility you have. Your actions will be used as a reference for her actions. You have the choice to make this into a fairytale romance.
As I write my thoughts, I am sitting in my lounge and out of the corner of my eye I watch a movie starring Uma Thurman. I am in baby blue pajama pant and white shirt. I cannot really say I want to watch Uma (I prefer documentaries Uma), nor do I want to sit in a baby blue pajama pant. But I do it for her. Only for her would I sacrifice my ritual Saturday dinner at Browns and wind down the Saturday evening with a romance movie on a perfect night for a walk.
The dress is of course part of the package. We did not know it at the time, but the discussions about what I should wear are part and parcel of the negotiations which marriage counselors call “c-o-m-p-r-o-m-i-s-e”. I am not sure how I got to wear this “interesting” ensemble, but I do know that I must have enjoyed it because here I am. But that is part of our relationship. It is based on absolute trust. I give my views when I think I have something useful to say but otherwise I just go with the flow. People who have worked with me may of course find this hard to believe, but it is true. Now imagine me doing any of this at the early stages of our relationship. It is an image that not even my creative mind can conjure. I am of course the same man who used to travel to holiday destinations in an Armani suit and laptop. Just in case a business idea reared its beautiful head. But those days are over.
Whether any of us will ever admit it, we all lie just a little bit during the courtship phase. It is normal and perfectly acceptable as long as it is not too big a lie. Even if it is small thing like matching her taste in ice cream and saying I like strawberry ice cream, it is still something, which will follow us into the relationship. All these little fibs and the truth blend into to create a personality, which is taken into your new relationship. As the relationship matures and your comfort for each other’s presence increases, the role-playing will diminish and you will be happy in just be you in front of her.
This is where the challenging part of a Russian-Western relationship comes into play. If your Russian wife is typical, then she will most probably be intelligent, degreed and most probably beautiful. Very few if any of these women are just looking to settle down and have children. Yes of course they want children and a family, but they want more. As your relationship becomes more settled and comfortable, your wife will start to explore the idea of working or maybe starting her own business. This may be done in a variety of ways. Maybe she will talk about a Russian friend she knows who as been very successful at managing both. In her own special way she will explore the idea. If you immediately block the idea, she will end all discussion about it. She will be careful not to damage the happiness she now has. Even though she does not talk about it, this does not mean she is not thinking about it. She will have dreams, hopes, aspirations and ideals, which she will want to fulfill. The hope will build within her.
During this time, she will still be the loving wife she wants to be, and you want her to be. She will care for you and the children. She will be the most perfect wife you can possibly imagine. This is the part where I stopped writing about my life and started giving generic advice. I think it is time I end my personal story. By giving my wife all the support she needed, she had grown into a wife who is more than just a “wife”. She has always lived her life by the right principles. I could easily see it in the way she acts, talks, thinks and lives her life. I knew, even before she knew it, that if given the freedom to be everything she could, she would bring something into our lives I could not. Yes, I advise high profile business leaders and people. But I do not know everything. By giving her the freedom to truly grow, she brought vitality back into our relationship. She as made me feel happy. I now joyously wait to wake up in the morning and tackle another day at Anna Reddy. We have both moved to working from 7am to 1am. But we are never tired, nor stressed from the experience. The experience of finding herself as actually made our marriage work better. We have grown together and moved our relationship to another level. She now knows I am comfortable with who she is, and she is not afraid to pursue her dreams and goals. She knows I will support her, and I know she will always be my wife in name and heart.
Many men reading this article will probably ask - what does this mean for me? This young, intelligent, beautiful woman married you and moved thousands of kilometers away to be with you. Do not make the mistake of thinking she wants to marry you. She wants to do more than that -she wants to develop and relationship and life with you. By showing her trust, sincerity and respect, you will empower her to contribute more to the relationship. She will love you and respect you more for this. She wants to love you, she wants the whole world to know, give her the chance to do so.
The fundamental of a successful Russian-Western marriage is simple. Give your wife the same things you want from her. There is no complex, checklist to go through. Everyone writing to me expects the advice to be different. Yes your Russian wife is different, but the principles of a successful relationship are the same. If you want something from the relationship, show it is possible by living the principle. A relationship in which a Russian wife is comfortable, is a successful relationship because it gives her an opportunity to make the marriage work in her own special way. A way that only a loving wife can make possible.

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It is devastating enough to consider the “body burden” being carried by adults in this increasingly polluted world but to even consider that your child is carrying a substantially heavier load of toxins than yourself is difficult to acknowledge. Belief would require action.
However, before I launch into a passionate diatribe against environmental pollution, mercury based childhood immunizations and present troubling information on heavy metal toxicity in infants and children, I will tell you in advance that I have recently discovered a natural health supplement that is elegant in its simplicity and ease of application. It involves a recently introduced product that works as a heavy metal detoxifier, completely safe for all ages. It is positioned to become one of the most important nutritional therapies of this new century. The name of this unique new product is Natural Cellular Defense, brought to market in August 2005 by the company of Waiora.
Although there have been products capable of removing heavy metals from the body in the past, there was always the possibility of doing damage to the kidneys in the process. Additionally, lighter metals such as calcium and minerals would be removed as well, requiring the individual to over-compensate with increased supplementation that was difficult to measure and effectively isolate the toxins. However, Natural Cellular Defense is a very effective system that never causes damage to the kidneys and has no affinity whatsoever for the lighter, essential minerals, such as calcium. It is completely safe. However, you do need to make sure the individual stays well hydrated.
WHY CHILDREN ARE AT A GREATER RISK THAN ADULTS.
It is easy enough to understand that a body, substantially smaller than our own, would inevitably react more strongly to the same amount of toxins. Coupled with rapid development, an infant or child is extremely vulnerable to environmental interference and their normal behavioral patterns put them at a higher risk. During the first months and years of life, children’s organs are developing rapidly, making them more prone to functional damage. The nervous system continues to develop throughout childhood and therefore is especially vulnerable to toxic chemicals in their personal environment as well as food and water. And just like their young bodies more readily absorb nutrients, they also readily absorb toxins.
In that first year of life, a child’s ability to metabolize, detoxify, and excrete toxins differs substantially from that of an adult. Children also may be more susceptible to some toxins because their liver and kidneys are not fully mature and cannot detoxify and excrete harmful substances as readily as adults.
THE DANGERS OF MERCURY BASED VACCINES.
We all remember the Mad Hatter from the story “Alice in Wonderland”. But what most of you may not know is that the mad hatter is based on a true story involving the hat makers in eighteenth century London who went mad from their lead hats. We have known for a very long time that lead is dangerous. Nonetheless, many vaccines today, including Whooping Cough, Diptheria, MMR, and to an even larger degree Hepatitis B - the latter being given to infants in the first 12-24 hours of their life - contain mercury in amounts far in excess of those cited as dangerous by the EPA as stated in 1998. The Hepatitis vaccine has been shown to cause serious neurological and ophthalmologic side effects. The benefits of vaccines are seriously undermined by their substantial risks.
Reputable health organizations have requested single dose vaccines so mercury would not be necessary, however, for whatever reason the practice of doling out mercury based vaccines to newborns continues. The practice is unconscionable. Only vaccines given intravenously or orally are considered safe.
The question of vaccine-related trauma remains a very controversial subject for there are two potentially conflicting values; the desire to eliminate infectious disease and the desire of a parent to protect their child. Unfortunately, few studies of the long term risks of vaccines exist and parents are left to make hard decisions in an antagonistic medical climate.
MERCURY AND ITS AFFECT ON CHILDREN.
Mercury is a potent neurotoxin which is highly damaging to the brain and nervous system. Exposure can hurt the child’s ability to concentrate; it can affect their language skills, socialization skills, hand to eye coordination and even their vision. Exposure to low levels of mercury can permanently damage the brain and nervous system and cause behavioral changes. You should also note that mercury is a persistent bioaccumulative neurotoxin which means it does not break down naturally.
The number of cases involving childhood disorders such as autism, ADD, ADHD, and certain types of cancers, have been rising steadily and these conditions have all been linked to high levels of toxicity. This is not to discount the genetic predisposition for these conditions but rather to make you aware that early toxic overload plays a part in triggering this condition.
TOXICITY AND ITS AFFECT ON FETAL DEVELOPMENT.
The National Academy of Sciences in July of 2000 filed a report establishing the risk of mercury exposure to fetal development is so great that at least 60,000 newborns each year could be at risk for learning and developmental problems from mercury exposure. In fact, one in 12 women of childbearing age in the U.S. have more mercury in the body than the Environmental Protection Agency considers safe for a fetus’s development, according to the latest data from the Center for Disease Control.
In a study spearheaded by the Environmental Working Group (EWG) in collaboration with Commonwealth, researchers at two major laboratories found an average of 200 industrial chemicals and pollutants in umbilical cord blood from 10 babies born in August and September of 2004 in U.S. hospitals. Tests revealed a total of 287 chemicals in the group. The umbilical cord blood of these 10 children, collected by Red Cross after the cord was cut, harbored pesticides, consumer product ingredients, and wastes from burning coal, gasoline, and garbage.
TOXICITY TEST RESULTS OF THREE CHILDREN.
The following test results are provided as a way of demonstrating that your child could indeed have high levels of toxicity. I encourage you to visit http://www.optimalwellnesstest.com for information on available testing.
This information was provided to me by an acquaintance who became concerned that his children suffered from higher than normal toxicity levels. To put the numbers in perspective, this family consumes organic food and the children were never vaccinated. The test procedure was performed immunoassay. The toxicity level was determined by a formula measuring metals in circulation (saliva), and being eliminated (urine).
Children’s ages are 7, 9 and 12 . Summary as follows:
Heavy Metals Tests: Pre and Post Waiora Natural Cellular Defense product:
12-13-2005
Each sample was tested for Aluminum, Mercury, Lead, Cadmium, and Arsenic.
A simple number pattern was used because this is not an official study. The simple number pattern is:
0 - zero levels of this metal
5 - Abnormally high levels of this metal
10 - Could be lethal or very harmful levels of this metal
Samples Before: 11-14-2005
Samples After: 12-5-2005
Time on NCD: 21 days
Child#1 (age 7)
Aluminum: Before NCD 7 - After NCD 3; Mercury: Before NCD 6 - After NCD 3; Lead: Before NCD 5 - After NCD 2; Cadmium: Before NCD 4 - After NCD 2; Arsenic: Before NCD 3 - After NCD 0.
Child#2 (age 9)
Aluminum: Before NCD 6 - After NCD 2; Mercury: Before NCD 6 - After NCD 2; Lead: Before NCD 7 - After NCD 2; Cadmium: Before NCD 3 - After NCD 0; Arsenic: Before NCD 3 - After NCD 0.
Child#3 (age 12)
Aluminum: Before NCD 6 - After NCD 2; Mercury: Before NCD 7 - After NCD 3; Mercury: Before NCD 5 - After NCD 1; Lead: Before NCD 7 - After NCD 1; Cadmium: Before NCD 4 - After NCD 2; Arsenic: Before NCD 5 - After NCD 5.
FINDING A WORKABLE SOLUTION.
Although the statistics on childhood toxicity on the surface appear daunting and the need to get a handle on our exposure to toxic chemicals desperate, we should remember that for every problem there is a solution. Without a doubt our industrial nation needs to take responsibility for their actions and to that end, governmental agencies need to do a better job at enforcing this responsibility. We need to find an alternative to mercury based vaccinations. Parents should do their best to limit exposure. Additionally, it is increasingly important for women wishing to become pregnant to engage in a detoxification program before trying to conceive and to that end, Natural Cellular Defense could be of great assistance. Most importantly, we must help our children already damaged by pollutants and chemicals by providing them with a serious and workable detoxification program. Natural Cellular Defense is a product that offers one very important and viable solution to toxic overload.
Copyright 2006 Paula Rothstein

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